This Year
My cat died
People were sick
I moved in with PQM
I gained some weight
I stopped being as stressed about gaining a few pounds
I still would like to lose some weight in the new year
I became more confident in my own voice
I got closer to some people and drifted a little away from others
I felt like an adult, sometimes
Next Year
Be more healthy
Walk more
Deal with my law school debt
Don’t let laundry pile up
Be more organized
Write on this blog more!
This year has been a weird one. I definitely feel like I have a better appreciation for life in general, who I am and what I am ok with about myself and what I am not. I’m not going to say I feel optimistic about the coming year because just typing that feels like tempting fate. Let me just say that it’s fairly calm inside my own head right now and I hope it stays that way for a while.
January 14, 2010 at 4:17 am |
God, I hope you don’t mind me following you from Jezebel, but might I bow down before your cool head with various imbeciles for a moment? Good God, how do you DO it?
January 14, 2010 at 1:32 pm |
No I loved that you followed me here.
I don’t FEEL like I have cool head with some of those idiots. Trust. Isn’t it amazing how confident people are in their own ignorance?
January 14, 2010 at 10:42 am |
Jesus! One dipshit was arguing about a rapist’s intent and…..then there were the TWO very young women who claimed to the be the daughters of Holocaust survivors, and that made it A-OK to compare the Holocaust to factory farming! How do people get like that? And how do they get it so wrong? Where do they come from?
You can’t argue with them because they’re devoted to their own thinking, but the sympathy for the rapists—”Oh, poor guy, he got duped!”—-is just jarring to me.
Oh, you’re SO much cooler with them t han me. Every day it’s a battle to say, “BITCH PLEASE.” Especially the Holocaust thing. Um, I’m fast approaching fifty. My father was 76 when he died eleven years ago. He fought and lost his family in that war. My mother came from a family of what the Spanish called ‘conversos’ during the Inquisition—-which her family would have experienced, as they were Jewish before they converted. She lost her only brother to the Nazis. I cannot describe what it feels like to be confronted with this arrogant little poodle-like creatures—sorry, I picture them as yappy little things—making light of far worse. Especially after I pointed out that the Holocaust itself was about stripping people of their humanity and then executing them, and by comparing them to say, chicken dinners, these twits were embracing the same concept. Good God. And that’s just a few of them!
It’s just that, I want a website that mixes shallow with serious, and it’s not a website specifically dedicated to women, you’ll find that men and their comments dominate and God help you in those circumstances if you so much breathe about feminism.
January 14, 2010 at 10:54 am |
Agreed. Some people don’t want to step back and examine what they’re really saying. As to the commenter in the “duped” rapist thread, he (or she but I guess he) has been around before spewing his bullshit. I’m always torn between engaging with those people, knowing they love the attention, or just ignoring them. In that case I HAD to say something because his comments about rape as a crime were just so unbelievably wrong and I didn’t want any women reading them to get the wrong idea.
I didn’t see that Holocaust thread but I think this, “I pointed out that the Holocaust itself was about stripping people of their humanity and then executing them, and by comparing them to say, chicken dinners, these twits were embracing the same concept,” is a perfect way to describe how wrong that sort of comparison is.
January 14, 2010 at 11:12 am |
The thing about the Holocaust thread was…how could you be the daughter of a survivor and do that? That’s why I call bullshit.
You think that other person is a guy? They sure whipped out all the usual anti-woman crap in their messages to me: I’m bitter, paranoid, hate men, blah blah blah blah. And more! But, yeah, something didn’t ping ‘male’ but ‘exceptionally privileged woman’ which I can often confuse with male.
See, I go on faith that most of the posters there are female, but I just discovered that the site doesn’t even track IPs. This means that if I get banned, I can just get a new account. Er…yeah. Gah.
January 14, 2010 at 11:22 am |
I don’t know, it could be a woman, I’ve certainly been wrong before (supposedly, who really knows I wouldn’t put it past a dude to tell me, I’m a woman! to prove a point) this particular commenter loves to pop up in those sort of threads to take the side of the male abuser/rapist.
January 14, 2010 at 11:28 am |
Oh, I had one case on my blog once where I was too new to blogging to check IPs. I banned this one asshole, and he went and created seven new accounts, one of them a woman, to give the appearance that the lurkers supported him in email. Oh, and the woman was a cheery surfer girl who told me to lighten up and get laid and so forth. Good times!
He—going back to the Jezehole—-showed up in that awful thread about blaming the victim of an acid attack in Britain. Guess which side he was on? Go on, guess! I’m sure you’ll be shocked.
January 14, 2010 at 11:31 am |
Ugh. See? I wish they’d ban that commenter.
January 14, 2010 at 11:44 am |
So many so-called feminist websites suffer from the civility issue, which is where some dudes come in and recycle all the same old shit about women that assholes say to and about women every. Damned. Day. Well, women get sick of it, get angry—and get tossed, because they’re not being civil to the guys who aren’t using nasty language! But the women get this shit every day and the guys are of course able to be calm because they think women are a total joke who deserve to be jeered at. I’ve seen it over and over again.
And so many women are so invested in being good girls they join in the shunning of other women—-they get really twitchy around really rebellious and independent women.
January 14, 2010 at 12:51 pm |
They get so used to being coddled.